…like Christmas!!!
as i sit here listening to James Taylor’s Christmas Album, i’m just stopping in to talk a little Christmas with y’all!
as soon as the last Thanksgiving dish was washed, Christmas started in full swing around here:
the very next day, we went and gathered our trees…yes…plural…trees.
the crazies traditionally always get their own little tree to decorate with all our “fun” ornaments. i pretty much let them go to town on their little tree:

this year their little Charlie Brown-ish tree got its own perfect spot in the window of their room, complete with a starfish as a tree topper…fitting, huh?
(thanks, Taylor, for the awesome banner!! its perfect!!)
admiring all their hard work from our front window:

since they use all their fun ornaments to decorate their tree, momma gets to decorate her tree the way she likes it…neutral and pretty!

the halls were most certainly decked!

and with the start of the Christmas season, we Floridians got a very (very) quick cool front for a few days, before climbing right back up to 80!
when that happens, our back doors fog over, making for the perfect drawing board:

Belle can be entertained for a long while, trying to cover every inch that she can reach with her handprints:

but possibly the most exciting thing yet has been this package that was dropped at our front door on December 1st:
The Elf on the Shelf

upon opening, we discoverd a letter from Santa:
(see update at end of post for the letter)

let me pause a minute to talk a little Santa with y’all.
here’s my take (for what its worth!)
i {big fat heart} Santa…a whole heck of a lot!!! we totally believe in him around here, and we enjoy the excitement and celebration that He brings.
i know there are differing thoughts on the proper way to deal with Santa and kids. i understand and truly respect those who choose to do it differently than we do…i really do! but we’ve chosen to enjoy his presence in our house because i don’t want my kids to grow up without the excitement of wondering, hoping, and joyfully awaiting his arrival. i have very vivid memories of being absolutely SURE that i heard sleigh bells as we were leaving church on Christmas Eve, Rudolph’s hooves landing on my roof, and i can’t tell you the wonder it brought my brothers and i to see that Santa had eaten the cookies we had left out for him. there’s nothing quite like that feeling, and i want my kids to enjoy that feeling FOR AS LONG AS POSSIBLE!!
in my opinion, enjoying Santa with our kids is not lying to them or creating scars for them not to trust us. its instead choosing to give them the opportunity to be kids, to wonder, hope, imagine, dream, play. this world doesn’t offer too many opportunities like that anymore, for kids to just simply be kids, innocent and playful and imaginative. i’m committed to giving them a childhood, even in this world that makes them grow up way too fast, and i personally believe Santa is one (of many) ways of doing that. so there…that’s my take
we believe that Santa has the capability to deeply add to the meaning of this season. one thing that Santa has over the years done for our family is remind us of the most wonderful gift that we are celebrating. In all his communication with our family, he always tells us that his gifts are twofold…
1) they are to show us that Jesus is sharing with us the joy of His birthday celebration, His coming to earth, God with us. Jesus bestows gifts on us because of His great love for us, personally.
2) they are a reminder that the best gift we have ever or will ever receive is the gift of a Rescuer.
We also hold firmly to the fact that Santa is NOT just an old man who you have to please in order to earn his presents. we believe that Santa operates out of grace, because we all mess up and we need to know that we are still loved in spite of our naughtiness!
SO….i have to tell you that we don’t really subscribe to the whole naughty and nice list thing. we desire for our crazies’ behavior to be a result of knowing that they are DEEPLY loved and cherished by Jesus and by us. so the naughty and nice list just doesn’t fit into our parenting style, because that would put the focus on behavior rather than the heart, and those precious little hearts that live in this house are WAY more important to us then behavior.
so, although the contents of our package from Santa might look like
The Elf on the Shelf
, it is in fact just a little bit different.
Our package from Santa contained an Elf named Eli. he came to us with a special letter from Santa, explaining that Elves are special creatures, kind of like our special stuffed animals, Plopper and Sniffer. we can play with him, talk to him, imagine with him, but he usually likes to come alive at night. Santa told us that he loves Eli very much, but that Eli tends to make naughty choices. Santa thought that maybe Canaan and Bella could use those moments to remind Eli of Jesus’ love and grace. so my crazies are supposed to teach him about grace when he does naughty things….which turns out is pretty often! and boy…do my kids get a kick out of it!

the crazies watched him like a hawk that first morning…i mean…like didn’t take their eyes off him. they were convinced, completely convinced, that he kept moving his eyes.
my personal fave so far…
i think the Bug is a little tired of cleaning up after Eli. i caught her disciplining him the other day, and then proceeding to stuff him in the dresser drawer so that he “can’t get out and do any mowe naughty tings!”
i’m sure there will be lots to report about Eli and the adventure he brings to our house over the next few weeks!

ps: i get that some of this might seem outlandish to some of you. it might seem like a stretch…like we are trying too hard to fit a secular thing into our spiritual world. but…isn’t that what life is really like anyway? aren’t we always trying to find God in the very places where we think He’s not? i like to think that every bit of life, of this world, has His very presence, in some form or another. Santa is just one way that we link up our secular world with our spiritual one…which really, when you think about it, is one and the same anyway
UPDATE:
08.22.12
since so many of you have requested to see the details of the letter that Santa included in the package with Eli, i’m posting it as a JPEG below. i figured that was easier than responding to each individual email. although the font below is just a normal font, when i printed it out to use in the package, i used “aka Frivolity” so that it resembled fancy Santa writing
you can click on the picture below to see it enlarged.
UPDATE:
12/03/2012:
Eli the Elf is going to be featured on CNN’s Headline News channel this afternoon, December 3, 2012, at 4:00 p.m. E.T. during the show Making it in America. he is SO excited, and wants you all to tune in to see his National Television debut
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Such great pictures. I love both of your trees.
I love your blog! I came across it when I re-pinned the Spicy Thai Noodles recipe on pinterest. I somewhat feel like a stalker!
I've been reading all of your older posts and have really enjoyed them! I especially enjoy your Haiti posts. My husband just returned from a mission trip there and we both have fallen in LOVE with the Haitian people. Thanks so much for your inspiration!
Love this! Check out this page on Facebook. My friend Morgan's elf has his own page. She is so creative! You will love it!
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Kilwin-the-elf/180156468661398
Do0es Eli visit the Mimi and Pappy's house with the kiddos?
This just made me smile so much! Hope your family has a very merry Christmas! Keep us updated with Eli's whereabouts!
Wonderful, Delightful, Thoughtful…such a creative way of teaching great truth to your children!!!!
I just discovered your blog and I wanted to say thank you. I love the idea of using Santa and Eli to show the kids God's grace and goodness. Too many times the church and the world deem certain things “secular” or “godly” but what if we can use what may be seen as “secular” to raise godly children? great job friend and happy holidays!!
I love this! Very creative.
Oh my gosh, you're so right about us with Santa's cookies in the morning! And how about the reindeer food you and I used to throw on the roof? Those are truly some of my most cherished memories
But it's just as much fun to watch the kids have those memories today.
Everything you said about childhood is so true. Kids are forced to grow up way too fast today. It's so great that Canaan and Bella get to have their childhood like we did
Oh, that Eli. Seriously, this is sooo adorable! I must say that I am pretty on the fence about how to handle Santa, but Levi loves dogs so much that he is already wearing me down (Chris and I are pretty much not fans of them). Soooo I am guessing the same thing will happen with Santa once he's a little older.
Love your blog! Eli is such a great idea! What did you put in Santa's letter? I would love to do that with my little boys! I also agree with you in that they can trach Eli grace and not focus on naughty and nice! by the wat, the decorations look great! Keep updating us with Eli's whereabouts! Can't wait to do this next year with my boys!
@Anonymous:
email me at asmallsnippet@gmail.com, and i'll send you a copy of the letter from Santa!
I'll be updating soon with more of Eli's silly antics!!
This is just the loveliest thing I've seen all day. That Eli… he sure is a character! Merry Christmas to you and your beautiful family!
I love how you have the kids “teach” Eli how to behave, reinforcing good behavior for them while also reinforcing unconditional love! I'm definitely going to do that this year!!! Thanks for the great idea!
Just found your blog through Pinterest. We too integrate the secular with the spiritual for our daughter so I can appreciate how hard you work at it. Wondering if Santa's letter spoke of the first Christmas to your kids? Would love another's perspective to share with my DD this year.
Stumbled upon your blog and wanted to suggest checking out The Christmas Angel. It is a fun and creative way to teach the true meaning of Christmas! To find out more, check out http://www.yourchristmasangel.com!
I kind of enjoyed the article but I gotta say that I can hardly read it with the background texture you have going here. I like what you have to say. But the burlap… not so much.
love your blog- especially this post
Thank you for sharing!
Nicole
I'm 23 years old and my mom, to this day, will not admit that there is no santa. It was so infuriating to me as a preteen when I was a little sure there wasn't one, but still had a part of me that wanted to believe there was. I plan to be the same way with my kids…
Thanks so much! I hope my 2nd grader still believes for a couple more years! My parents just visited North Pole Alaska and are having Santa send a letter in early December! Julie in Houston!
We Alaskans LOVE Santa..
This is exactly how I feel! I have had such a difficult time making Christmas about Christ while still incorporating the magic of Santa.
) Thank you so much for sharing your amazing idea!!
That's So cool! I will definately have to pass this on to the mother of the children i baby-sit!They'll LOVE IT!!!
You are very inspirational! Wish I had your creativity, but so glad to have stumbled upon your blog! Definitely going to research the books you recommended. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and enthusiasm for your family, children and Jesus! The world needs more people like you!
Oh my gosh!! I love you!! Where has your blog been all my life?!? I have a 2 year old and read “Grace Based Parenting” last year and LOVED it. What great principles!! I was saved when I was 9, and understood grace in that one time only kind of way, but feel like I didn't really understand the day to day grace (duh) until I began reading that book. Whew! What I had been missing out on!! Anyway, I also wanted to say that I LOVE your take on Santa and Jesus and Christmas!! I had been wondering how to present this info to my daughter, because pre-baby I was convinced it was best not to “lie” to my kids about Santa. But since baby girl was born, every Christmas I thought about how fun it was/is to beleive and have that child-like wonder. Gah!! But….I LOVE your take one it and will be back to make my hubby read this post!! Plus I just subscribed because you seem so awesome!!
This is such a great post and thank you so much for sharing your letter with us! I have gone back and forth with having Elf visit at Christmas, but haven't known how to do so but keep the focus off behavior so much. I'll definitely check out the book you mentioned above but I also wanted to share the book we read every Christmas, Santa Are You For Real by Harold Myra. It's a wonderful Children's book that talks about the original St Nick that secretly helped poor families in various ways at night, thus becoming St Nicholas. It's communicates a great way to have fun with Santa but it takes the focus of Christmas off him and puts it back on Christ. Thanks again!
Thank you for sharing this idea. (And including the recommendations of parenting books. I have had them on my list but hadn't heard any non-professional comments on them.) My daughter is three and has just started asking about Santa. We originally thought we wouldn't include Santa in our celebrations but man is it difficult when so many of her favorite books, characters and tv shows include him. I am definitely going to discuss this again with DH and see if we can't figure out a middle ground like you all did.
Thanks for sharing! What a great Idea for the kids! Going to use this for Christmas this year:D God Bless!!
Thank you so much for this wonderful post. We try to keep Santa low-key, because we want to focus on CHRIST during the season, and giving to others. But I miss the magic for my kids. The way you've done this is wonderful, and I'm excited to help our kids see that we make good choices because Jesus wants us to, not because Santa has a naughty/nice list. Thank you for these great ideas!
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I just read this about, Christmas, Santa, Jesus, Elf on the Shelf, and from what I got, LOVE!!!! I would love to subscribe to your blog, but did not see a way to sign up. My e-mail is gwen0412@gmail.com. I hope to hear from you!! Thanks, Gwen
I love your idea for the elf! I'm so excited that I can join in this tradition and still incorporate Jesus.
I have a question. Where did you get your elf? I can only find them included with the book, and I don't care much for the book.
@Misty:
i have yet to see the elf sold without the book. let me know though if you find one
unfortunately, i was only able to find the elf sold together with the Elf on the Shelf book. you can find it here: The Elf on the Shelf
we don't use the book, so i just hid it away. not sure why, but i didn't have it in me to throw a perfectly brand new book away! so its sitting under my bed right now
I found my elf Jingle at Target. He is plush but has worked out very well! Did not have to buy the book and he was about $8.00 or so. Jingle is into acts of service at our house so he wipes off the counter and folds washclothes etc. as well as hanging from the ceiling fan!
We have an elf, his name if FRED (which was my precious daddy's name). My grandbabies just love him and like your Eli, he acts up. But, sharing about grace and forgiveness is SO perfect! Now, I have something to look forward to add as this year rolls around. Fred always has a candy which the girls get when they find him, but of course they can't touch Fred so that adds a little something to the magic. This year though, my babies have moved to another city, so facetime will be really important in keeping up with what is going on with our little elf. Thanks for sharing how you handle this! I look forward to keeping up with your blog. Karen in Charlotte, NC
this is wonderful! I love your letter from Santa and all of the creative things you did with Eli during the night.
Thanks for sharing!
I have an 11 month old and have been anxiously awaiting the arrival of our own special elf since last Christmas!! We might be waiting another year, but I guess that just gives me time to think of more ideas! Thank you for sharing yours! I too have fond memories of Santa and Christmas! How touching and inspiring to hear about a family who has found a way to meld the true meaning of Christmas with the special magic of Santa as well. I can't wait to share this outlook with my son as he grows.
What a blessing that your kiddos have a mom who loves them so deeply and with such energy! I would encourage you, though, to consider how you can convey the “excitement of wondering, hoping, and joyfully awaiting his arrival” to your children with regard to the long awaited, often prophesied, rescuer of the world, Jesus! To ask such small people to split their affection and excitement between a jolly, gift bearing, cartoon of a man and a humble servant and lamb is asking too much, I think. Personally, I think the option to celebrate Christmas as a spiritual revival of joy in the Savior's birth or as a largely commercial secular holiday is entirely up to each family. After all, this is not a biblically mandated day at all, so do it however you want to! But I also think, if you're going to mention – even say it at all – that it is about the birth of the Son of God, He shouldn't have to compete for your childrens' excitement. There is such great mystery, joy and anticipation in the Messiah being born! Inspire in your children the same wonder and awe you felt at the day of your salvation! Can you imagine a better gift?
@Jessica:
thanks for your thoughts. i really have considered and thought about what you said. and the more i thought about it, i realized that i might need to be more clear about our family's approach to this celebration.
the longer i live, the more i realize that we live in a world where we try to split the spiritual from the secular. our approach to life is to live as spiritual within the secular. in other words…i don't believe there is an ounce of this world (secular) that is not in some way spiritual, because i believe God is present in it all. does that mean we indulge in all things secular? absolutely not! but can God show His glory in anything He choses, even “secular” things? absolutely! therefore, we do try to take things that are secular and mainstream and use them to Glorify God. Santa is just one example of how we do that. i think we do a much greater disservice to God's Children in this world when we make ourselves so separate, and so un-relateable by not engaging in anything secular. our family has chosen to live in this world, just as Jesus did, instead of living as if we are not apart of this world. whether we like to believe it or not, we are still stuck in the in between…the almost, but not yet. in other words, as we wait in great anticipation for eternity with Jesus, we live in the world He has placed us in in the meantime, and we love because He first loves us. we like to believe that we are loving others when we do not live as if we are better than, or so separate then, the rest of the world. we desire for everyone we meet to see Jesus glorified in us, but we believe one of the best ways to do that is to engage with others within the world that Jesus has placed us in right now. afterall, that's exactly the ministry that Jesus did for us…He came into our world, met us in the midst of where we are, and showed us His great love.
in terms of asking my children to split their affections and excitement between Jesus and Santa….i have never done that, nor will i ever do that. just as i don't ask my kids to split their affection between me as their mom and my husband as their dad…i believe that they have the capacity to love Jesus deeply….and be excited about Santa too. i don't believe that being excited about Santa means that they have to love Jesus any less than they would if we chose to not believe in Santa. just as i don't believe that for my kids to love me as their mom means that they can't have deep affections for their dad too. my children are very aware that Santa and Jesus are not one and the same…not even close. but it has amazed me to watch how, for our family, Santa (a secular man) can be used to point young children to a greater love for Jesus and His saving grace, and therefore bring glory to God.
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I’m sorry I didn’t see it sooner! I sincerely appreciate your perspective, and I understand the desire to embrace the opportunities the world provides to reveal the nature of God and glorify Him through the use of secular traditions, etc. On the other hand, there is a preponderance of scripture that reminds us to be on guard not to “love the world.” Read Matthew 10 – when Jesus sends his disciples into the world, he warns them that they are sheep among wolves and that they must even guard themselves from loving their parents, children, and their own will more than they love Him. Affection divided between parents is not comparable to affection/excitement divided between Christ and anything else. He is solely and uniquely the way, the truth, and the life. Any celebration that is dedicated to his earthly ministry and “birth” should be guarded cautiously by those who seek to disciple their children for His glory. I agree that we should not act “better than” the rest of the world. We are a people who boast in our weaknesses and repent of our failures, so certainly emphasizing the Savior is not an act of arrogance. I don’t think that choosing carefully how you celebrate within your home means you have to treat those who disagree with disrespect or dismissal. Certainly we should always strive to love others with Truth. The Gospel of Jesus is relevant in all times, in all places, and within all cultures. There is nothing that the secular world can offer that can improve upon it. I’m not suggesting that you avoid any use of Santa, elves or other “secular” images, but rather than your most prized traditions be focused on the King. We do tell our children about St. Nicholas and who he was, but we also make it clear that Santa Claus is similar to Mickey Mouse. He’s a cultural icon, but NOT the reason we make a big deal about this time of year. Anyway, I am certain that nothing short of conviction from the Holy Spirit will stir your (or anyone else’s) heart to change what is a well-loved tradition, but I hope that our conversation will encourage you in prayer. Blessings and thanks, Jessica.
@Jessica:
i’m guessing we could go back and forth all day long on this subject, and although i have many many thoughts swirling around in response to your comments, i think its best if we just agree to disagree
We got our elf last year, and Santa took her back to the North Pole on Christmas Eve. He said she would return before Christmas this year. Love your note and philosophy!!
I love this! I have in the past struggled with the whole Santa thing. I love your approach! Have you thought about what you will say to your children when they come to you and ask if Santa is really real? My son is 9 yrs and I know the day is coming. What is your advice?
@Shana:
when my kids come to ask me about Santa, i plan to ask them, “well…what do YOU think?” that way, they can investigate for themselves what they really think and choose if they still want to believe or not. i do not intend to lie to them, but i also don’t intend to just come out right away and tell them Santa doesn’t exist. as with lots of hard questions my kiddos ask that i’m not quite ready to answer, until its age appropriate to answer their questions, i’m learning that playing it cool, not giving lots of details, and directing them to think about it themselves is a good way to start, and then we can continue the conversation in whatever direction they take it. that’s my plan! i’ll have to update you on the actual conversation we have once its all said and done…which i hope and pray is many many many years from now
great question! i have thought a lot about what to say in that situation, and truth be told…i’m not sure what i’ll say once i’m there! but i can tell you what i’m planning on saying (at this point anyway)
Santa, or St. Nicholas, was real. When my girls asked, I told them that the Santa game we play now is based on a real man who loved God and gave to others. We reinforce that by making sure that we are Santa for others, with Operation Shoe Box, for example. My youngest and I recently had a chat about the tooth fairy, and I explained to her, even tho she didn’t ask, about how that game works, and explained the difference between Santa and the tooth fairy game. She still wants to ‘play’ because it is more exciting to get quarters out of a glass than just trade Mom the tooth for them. (Loosing teeth is very traumatic to her for some reason, so I offered her to continue the trading without the game.) She is 7, and wise beyond me some days, and she didn’t miss a beat on any of these. My older girls were the same. Its all about relationships, and lots of grace!
I saw your comment and remembered I had stumbled upon this blog a while back. It thought it was a simple and sweet idea for your children to know the “truth”. It doesn’t incorporate the Christ part of Christmas, as this blog beautifully does, but it is still a sweet and tender way to approach that difficult question. Hope it helps!
http://www.cozi.com/live-simply/truth-about-santa
@Shondel:
thanks for that link. i had seen that before a while back but had forgotten about it. although, like you said, it doesn’t incorporate Jesus, i think its got some great points that could be helpful. its inspiring me to maybe draft a letter with some thoughts just in case, for when that day comes! thanks again!
I love, love, love this idea! Thank you for sharing this. As a Christian, being raised by Christian parent (my dad is a Baptist preacher), I’ve always struggled with this. I was raised not to believe in Santa. We were told that Santa was the world’s attempt to remove Christ from Christmas. That said, when I had a daughter I knew that we were going to teach her about Santa because I thought it as a certain right of passage and a childhood experience that i didnt want her to miss out on. All that said, shes a bit old for this now (though i think I’ll do parts of it with her anyway just for goofy fun) but im definitely doing this for my nephew whos 4 and who i love to make smile. Thanks again for sharing. Thiswill bring special expdriences for my family.
So I’m super new to blogs and anything cool related!!! I have one little munchkin who isn’t even 2 yet but I love to get some really neat ideas to start up a tradition with her. I didn’t really grow up on any traditional type of thing and I would love to give that to her!! I love this idea, never heard of elf on a shelf before but this will be so cute once she is older!! Love your site <3 Renee
I love this! I’m going to pin it and use it this Christmas for my daughter. I love how you intertwine the true meaning of Christmas (Jesus) with Santa. Thanks so much for sharing.
In our family we enjoy Santa as long as we are able but eventually someone will let the cat out of the bag. At this point, we explain that Santa is the Spirit (Angel) of Christmas, and yes, all of the gifts are ones that WE put under the tree … it is to honor Jesus’s Birthday. Then we have to wait for the Spirit of Christmas to come and bless everything on the date observed as his birthday.
Thank you so much for sharing this! My husband and I still don’t agree about Santa, but this might change my his mind!
I love all the pictures of the elf doing different Christmasy stuff. Too cute!
On another note, I gotta ask: why no capital letters at the beginning of your sentences?
@Becky: no certain reason for no capitals, other than its just my style
I didn’t see a link to the letter at the end of the article. Did I miss it? Would you mind emailing me the text? We’d love to use it too with our kids! Thanks!
Wait a sec….never mind! As soon as I posted the comment, the page refreshed and the letter magically appeared!
Seriously, this could not have come at a better time. I love all things Santa, too, but was literally just saying to my husband, “should we tell them the truth? Are we lying to them?!?”
But yet, I don’t want to tell them “the truth”. I love the magic of Christmas and Santa and the elf on the shelf (which I’m totally copying your letter idea, btw).
So thank you for being candid and sharing your perspective. As a fellow pastors wife with kids about the same age as yours I’m guessing, it wasnt a coincidence that I landed here tonight.
Blessings to you and your family this season!
Thank you for the inspiration Leana! I was struggling with wanting to incorporate Elf on the Shelf in my own family but not on board with the whole idea. You inspired me to adapt it to fit my young family and our own beliefs. Thank you for the inspiration: http://studerteam.blogspot.com/2012/11/elf-on-shelf-studer-team-version.html
I cannot thank you enough for sharing this, I have been looking for years at Elf on the Shelf, but have not bought it, because I felt it was one more thing for my kids to remember at Christmas, that wasn’t Christ. I CANNOT wait to do this!
Combining santa and Jesus….so if i take just a little bit of poop and mix into the chocolate pie the pie is still good! Wrong!!! You can think what you want about me but if you mix a lie with the truth, it becomes a lie. so why would anyone teach that Santa and Jesus have anything in common. when your kids find out the truth about santa do you want them to question the realness and awesomeness of our Lord and Savior? I have two wonderful little girls and they have been taught Jesus is the reason for the season, santa is well a fairy tale like those of their beloved princess tales. I dont feel as though i am robbing them of excitement, wonder, hope, and joy. Instead giving them an eternal joy, hope, faith, and love that cant be matched by any gift brought by a jolly fat man in a suit but only come from a Baby born to a virgin and laid in a manger, later to die and rise again!
@Julie:
as i stated in my post above, i genuinely respect and appreciate people who choose to handle Santa differently than we do. i don’t think they are incorrect or wrong in their approach. i would respectfully ask you to do the same for me.
@Julie:
Just curious. . . do you and your family exchange gifts on Christmas Julie?
I may have missed it in my hurry but where does one get that From the desk of Santa paper? I really like how you put everything that is going on in my head with Christ and Christmas and Santa to words I shared you blog on my FB and want to say thank you!!
@Jenn:
thanks for your comment!! i honestly cannot remember where i found that paper. it was an image somewhere online that i thought i pinned, but i just looked for it and couldn’t find it. sorry about that!
@Jenn:
i found it!! you can download it here:
http://designeditor.typepad.com/design_editor/2011/11/free-download-santas-stationery.html
LET’S BE BEST FRIENDS! I just cried reading this. I don’t know if part of that is because I am pregnant with my first child…I a sure it is…but this just touched my heart. I need this! I spent all weekend buying lots of Christmas decorations and setting up my tree in my new house. It is the first house I have ever owned and Christmas seems more magical this year than ever because of the baby on the way. But yesterday I started to wonder if I was doing something wrong by adoring the idea of Santa. Seriously…I am like a 5 year old. I am so much happier with all of the Christmas decorations up. I was wondering if that meant that I had left Jesus out. But I haven’t. Thank you so much for showing me how to do both. I can’t wait until next Christmas to introduce a 6-month-old to “Santa” and “Jesus” and not necessarily in that order.
@Meredith:
seems as if we have some things in common! i hope you enjoy the Christmas season to the fullest for many years to come with your sweet new addition!
i can always use another BFF
Thank you so much for sharing this! Our feelings and sentiments on these issues could not line up more precisely, yet I struggled on how to handle the tough questions coming from my first grader. When the rubber meets the road, and they do realize that Santa is not traveling across the globe in one night, how would you address your kids? I’m sincerely asking because I want to make sure that my girls get the magic of Christmas and the joy it brings, but I want to be prepared so that there are no doubts when it comes to our Savior. I’d love your input!!! Thank you again for your heart and sharing!
@Mary:
i love to hear from other readers who line up with our thoughts on this issue! thanks for your comment.
you have posed a great question, that i’m not sure i have a great answer to! i’m not there yet, and i hope to have some time before i get there
but i’ll tell you some thoughts i have.
the reality is…my kids are very much aware that Santa and Jesus are very different people. i very much believe that my children, who know the difference between the two, do not and will not lump them into the same category. there is nothing about the way we celebrate with Santa that would lead them to believe that Santa and Jesus are similar in anyway. Santa is used in our house to point our kids to Jesus. just as the nativity scene is used as a means to remember Jesus…it doesn’t mean that just because something isn’t actually real, it can’t cause us to remember and celebrate something else, or cause doubts.
in my mind, the way we handle Santa is so very different than the way we talk to our children about Jesus, that i don’t believe one would ever cause doubts about the other. they are in no way the same in our house. we take every opportunity to point to Jesus being the best thing ever. using Santa is one way that we do that in our family.
when it is time for them to know all the details about Santa, i will explain to them what i explain above in my post…that we used Santa as a means of pointing them to Jesus. if you ask my kids about Santa, they are fully aware that he comes to help us celebrate the birth of our Savior. i believe when they are old enough to know about Santa, they will also be old enough to understand that he was used as a childlike way of helping our children understand and grasp the hugeness of what we are celebrating at Christmas. i don’t see it as being any different than playing dress-up with my daughter, or “house” with my kids…they will know its pretend. kids get the idea of “pretend.” this kind of pretend with Santa has a deep purpose for us, so i can get excited about one day (when they are older) them understanding how we’ve used Santa as a means of glorifying Jesus. hope that helps!! if you have any other thoughts, let me know. i don’t have it all figured out, so i’d love other thoughts
can I just say- I just took a HUGE sigh of relief, because in all actuality, we explain and “use” Santa in the very same way! That he helps us celebrate the birth of Christ. So in reading your response, it reaffirmed what I had been thinking and how I was hoping it would play out. for some reason, reading it/ hearing it come from someone else really helps!!!! Thank you! I really can’t explain how much this has weighed on me lately and your post has been refreshing and certainly reaffirming in why we do what we do! Thank you so much again for putting yourself out there. My heart breaks a little every time I read someone’s post that is just blasting you. I love your heart for God! I pray God continues to bless your family! I look forward to following your blog!
Mary,
We use a book called “Saint Nicholas the Real Story of the Christmas Legend” and talk about how he gave in secret to others out of God given love and compassion. We do this too as we give to others sometimes, but not always, in secret throughout the season.
I love everything about this post! Our elf just came this morning. I wish I would have read this yesterday
. Love, love, love everything about it!! Thanks for sharing!
Hi Le Ana, God is good all the time! Our children are older this year than last… oh duh. HA ha. Okay let me rephrase that… This year as the children are a year older than last year, they are beginning to ask more questions in regards to Santa. In short, we have said that God and Jesus are the reason for the season (we elaborated of course) and Santa is much like an Elf to God and Jesus (that Santa prays to God and Jesus about who gets what etc.). The kids got it. “Oh so God and Jesus are the boss of Santa”. Ha ha! I liked how you explained grace and a bunch of other things in the letter that you enclosed with Eli. I’m doing Elf on the Shelf for the first time this year and so I am SOOO happy that God placed your blog before me (via pintrest)! Ha… God… He is SOOO amazing. He’s even in on the whole new technology stuff. Our little Elf will arrive this Saturday Morning. I am so excited. Thank you for being you… May God bless you richly this Christmas and all the days that lie ahead as you have been a blessing to me and my family. Keeping our eyes fixed on our Lord can be difficult when the secular world offers lucrative distractions! Praise God for His grace, love and mercy (and everything in between). P.S. LOVEd your ideas for E.O.S and the fact that you got them a little tree! SO fun!
Thank you so much for sharing this! This is wonderful! You have some very fun ideas and I love the mom tree! I do that also!
Everyone gets their own! Any chance you could post the santa letter as a word doc or do you know of a way to convert a jpg to a word doc so we can change the font? Thanks again! Suzanne
i LOVE the way you tntroduced the elf (Eli) to your children. It is such a beautiful way to teach your children about grace, love and forgiveness. Really wonderful! Thanks for sharing.
Have you seen The Christmas Angel? Similar to the Elf on the Shelf but it’s the story of the Christmas angel and every night she comes to leave messages written in gold dust asking us to do good deeds for others. For example, collect food for homeless shelter or make Christmas cards for nursing homes., etc. Co.especially with a book and the stuffed angel and gold dust. Perfect Christmas message.
@Liz:
seems like a cute idea!
i have seen the Christmas Angel
I love, love, love your blog about Santa, Eli (the elf), and how you use them “as a means of pointing them (your children) to Jesus…and that he comes to help us celebrate the birth of our Savior.” I totally get it and agree. I am laughing at your creativity with Eli and his mischiefs throughout your home….so adorable. I never did the elf with my 2 older boys (now 22 and 20), but after reading your story, I would like for Santa to bring an elf to our home for our littlest boy, Kai, who is almost 5.
Your pictures are beautiful and your words are inspirational. I am so happy to meet you, thanks to Pinterest, and I look forward to reading your other posts.
This is awesome! What will you tell them when they find out Santa and Eli are not real? Very curious. I love your idea and would be interested to know.
@Emily:
great question! i addressed that question in the comments above, so just scroll up a bit to see it.
Hi there- I had to tell you that I LOVE your letter to the kids from Eli and his explanation of Grace. You inspired me to write a letter to my kids from our ‘gingerbread man’. I posted my letter on my blog and did it give you credit…I just hope I did it right- I am pretty new to this Blog thing. Wishing you and your family a blessed Christmas!
@Laura:
thanks for linking to my blog! your letter was beautiful! hope your family enjoys the Christmas season!
I found your blog post on pinterest and pinned it awhile back, I love how creative you were with this, and it is also very important to me to make sure my children know what Christmas is for, but I also choose to participate in Santa.
I feel that santa is a very special art of being a kid and although we do Santa, we also bake a birthday cake for Jesus and remember that it is a season to give, like the gift that the Lord has given us. I just bought the elf on the shelf today, and I am completely knew to this. I would like to go about it a little like you did as well, but I was wondering if/how you incorporated the book that comes with it. Just wasnt sure how I should start
any tips would be greatly appreciated! thanks!
@Jenny:
thanks for your comment! to answer your question, i did not use the book that came with the elf. i meant to just throw it out, but i think its still sitting in a box under my bed b/c i struggled last year with throwing out a brand new book, even though i don’t love the contents!! hope that helps!
Ohhh. my. goodness! I enjoyed every bit of this post! Brought me so much joy to see the fun you allow your sweet children to have on this exciting holiday! There’s a lot of legalism swirling around us recently and this was so refreshing and puts it all in perspective! So thank you
We just got our elf “zadder” a few days ago and have been having such a blast!!! I’m not sure who’s having more fun…our 4 year old or my husband and I..ha!
For His Glory,
Lauren Bland
What an amazing idea to incorporate the two. I will definitely be doing this in my home
well, our oldest daughter (7) was asking about this elf on the shelf “thing” after hearing about it at school…then i came across your post and your letter…..I LOVE your letter and how it links it back to Jesus and the real meaning of christmas!! Thank you SO MUCH for your idea!!!!! Perfect timing for me to come across this…thanks again!! I am now so excited to start this little tradition with our three girls!!!
Your story is beautiful, your love for your children is extremely clear. But I really must say that I think the Theology you speak of, as it relates to bible based Christianity is off. If you break down the essence of many things said in the blog above, they directly contradict what is written in the Bible.
I won’t mention them all, there were more than a few though. I’ll just mention the main ones that came to mind.
1. God is a jealous God. He requires all worship directed to him only. Anything else is Idolatry. Idolatry is actually very easy to commit, it’s anytime we place importance of anything physical or in our hearts above the Lord. Teaching your children that Santa is real, and to believe in him… is absolutely that. There is no way around it. Nothing in the bible will support your position that teaching your Children that Santa is real is ok. Idolatry is one of the Ten commandments even! This is not buried deep in theology… it’s right out there on the front.
2. Lying can take many forms. An innocent lie is a lie, just the same as an offensive lie is a lie. Bearing false witness is what you are doing here. It’s yet another one of the ten commandments and it’s NOT ok. It’s a form of lying. Nothing you can research and reply with in the Bible will justify bearing false witness.
3. You are relying on the wisdom of man, instead of God. You speak of “Santa Claus” teaching you as if he was a real person… he is mostly a myth made up of one of several possible origins, then changed over the years into something very different. Big point though, Santa Claus is mostly a creation of MAN, which is fallable… Some things you learn from the Myth of Santa Claus will be right, some will be wrong. God, and his word in the bible never is. You should not base your teachings on something that is less then the bible… when you have the bible right there! The most clever and hard to spot lies are the ones buried in good intentions and truth.
I like the STORY of Santa Claus. My daughter, wife and I watch the movies and read the stories… but I do NOT present them as “fact” or “real”. I realize your intentions are good, you love your children, but you are indeed mislead.
This would have been a much better discussion for a 1:1 conversation, but since you chose to post it as a blog on the Internet you now are teaching others and leading them down this same path. By the way, that’s also something spoken pretty heavily against…
Here’s what I’m saying… in essence… Don’t take my word for any of it. VERIFY it with Biblical study. Go right to the source and dig in and choose your words carefully when you post on the internet about what is “correct” Christian Theology!!
@Edwin:
It deeply saddens me that you are choosing to look beyond the very message of this post….that my deepest desire for my children is to teach them that we serve a Big God who has come to our Rescue. Although I never believed this little post about Santa and the EOTS would blow up the way it did, I can say that I am also brimming over with joy that God has chosen to use it as a means of connecting children’s hearts all over the globe to Jesus through the use of Santa and the Elf on the Shelf.
Just as children may read a book about a Big Red Dog, or a Princess, or Pooh Bear, and believe in childlike faith that their beloved characters really exist, so too do my children believe in the existence of Santa. That does not mean that we are elevating those characters to be more important than our great Savior, but are simply enjoying their presence within our world. But even beyond that, we are redeeming the things of this world, Santa and our Elf, and using them to proclaim the gospel message of grace and love.
The way we use Santa and the Elf are similar to what CS Lewis does in the Chronicles of Narnia. That series is a great example of using a story and allegory to help children believe and understand God’s love for them, and the Rescue of a Savior. Aslan is certainly not an idol, but a creative way of utilizing a story and character to lead our hearts deeper into love for our Savior.
This is not a man made method of communicating truth, as Jesus used parables to communicate the love of God for His people. He told cultural stories to communicate truth. He used allegory to show his people how much God loves them. He was not lying, nor was He attempting to lead his children astray, but was entering their world, and using things they were familiar with to teach a greater truth.
Our use of Santa and the Elf are an allegory….and nothing more. They are not the only means we use to communicate truth to our kids, but it is our attempt to use a cultural thing that they are very familiar with to relate those sweet, small hearts to the love of their HUGE Savior.
This is not the only way we instruct our children about Jesus, but it just happens to be one of the ways we are attempting to redeem the things of this world to advance the Kingdom of God, and to creatively communicate the Gospel of grace in a childlike way to an 8 year old and a 5 year old. We are entering their world, just as Jesus entered our’s, and we are choosing to meet them in a way in which they will relate to and understand, just as Jesus has done for us.
The reality is…my children are understanding and desiring more and more of the grace of God and His love over them through our use of Santa and the Elf. I understand that there are many ways to communicate truth, and although this is not one of the ways you personally choose to teach your daughter, and as I state in the post above, I completely respect that, I please ask you to do the same for me. It is hurtful to be accused of things that are not true, and I do not believe for a second that my children, nor the many people reading this post, who are grasping and understanding the ways God loves us and the grace He shows us, could in any way be labeled as leading people astray.
As the purpose of this blog was never meant to be a platform for back and forth theological discussion, I must ask you to please stop using it to do so, and please stop accusing me of things that are not true. I want you to know ahead of time that I will from here on out delete any comment from you that does so. They are hurtful and are not good for this simple momma’s heart, who’s only desire in this is for her children to know and understand the huge love of their Rescuer, and to share that amazing message with anyone else who desires to read.
A friend of mine (also a Pastor’s wife) shared your blog with me. I am 47 years old and (Big Fat Heart) Santa. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on how Santa and Jesus can be interwined with each other. Although my child is now an adult, Santa still leaves presents under the tree for him. Yep, the gift tag is signed “Santa”. I am saving a copy of the letter Santa sent your beautiful children so I may use it one day for my future grandchildren.
Thank you again for this post.
I wrote a long comment last night, but it didn’t post (session timed out or something.) I really enjoyed the article, but honestly very surprised at some of the responses, particularly those that were rude, hurtful or hateful. I always have to ask, “Where’s the love?” I think often people confuse convictions with opinions; regardless of why someone believes what they do, if they claim to be a Jesus-follower, it should be shared with love as the motivation and the carrier.
This morning I was reading in Colossians and Holy Spirit illuminated this verse to me. I wanted to share it with you, as an encouragement. “So don’t let anyone condemn you for what you eat or drink, or for not celebrating certain holy days or new moon ceremonies or Sabbaths. For these rules are only shadows of the reality yet to come. And Christ himself is that reality.” The Amplified version adds, “Those things are only shadows and they have only a symbolic value.”
I absolutely loved your response to one comment when you discussed how Jesus had used parables and CS Lewis spoke in allegory. Jesus used parables because it made these deep concepts easier to grasp for those he was teaching, children **and** adults. Why would we think we’re any different, some 2000 years later? Technology may have changed, but our hearts are still the same; we still need a Savior, still need to have truth imparted in ways that make sense and still need it all to come through love. If that means a small stuffed Elf is a part of the lesson, then so be it.
There is great danger to compartmentalizing things into spiritual and secular and assuming that “secular” things have no place in our spiritual lives. Christ is God-made-flesh who is IN all and holds ALL things together.
God bless you for sharing your heart! I pray that you are not discouraged by those who would attempt to enforce their own version of The Law on your family or make judgements about the motivations of your heart.
@April:
your comment was totally a gift from God to me this morning. i type with tears in my eyes…i needed that encouragement! thank you, for taking the time to write it, and for sharing those verses with me. that’s exactly what i needed to hear. you have spoken my heart so eloquently, so thank you so very much!!
Saw your latest post. Will be watching at 4pm. I admire your big momma heart. Merry Christmas!
I love this post. I also big fat heart Santa and still believe in Christmas magic. We are probably going to make our own Elf next year and I will adapt the concept of your fabulous letter. One of my favorite images is of Santa kneeling in reverence at the manger.
As far as my little girl is concerned–when we meet Mickey at Disney World–that is *really* MICKEY; when she meets Belle, or Cinderella, or any of the other Disney characters, she is meeting the real thing. To be honest, it’s fun for me to act as if they are, too! I really don’t see how Santa is any different.
Bottom line is — What happened that night in Bethlehem is what Christmas is all about. God’s love and grace are what matters, and if we can use a little Elf to help teach that, great!
Anyway, God bless you and try not to let the rude comments get you down!
I have two adult sons – one is 30 and the other 21. This very weekend my youngest son’s new girl was visiting and helping decorate, and he yelled to me from the kitchen. MOM! Isn’t Santa real? (JB had clearly questioned him, after I had been prodding him to make his list for me to take to Santa.) I replied – as always – Santa is what is good in all of us and the world – he is loving and kind and God created him just as he created us. Is their still good in all of us? His usual reply – YES! My smile – then there is your answer. I believe that Santa is a representation of good and good is real. So – neither my 30 year old or my 21 year old will say to me – SANTA is not real – for if he is gone – so is all that is good! Plus – it is a lot more fun my way!!!! As Leana so beautifully put it. But I support whatever way anyone deals with the SANTA issue
I think the way you do Santa is great for Christians!!! One question I have is what will you do when your children find out Santa isn’t real? I really love your idea! I always loved when my parent’s did santa with me and I didn’t get upset when I found out he wasn’t real, but some kids do. I want to do santa with my children when I have my own in a few years. What would you suggest? I wouldn’t want my children to think Jesus wasn’t real since an unreal person was telling them about Jesus. I guess maybe I could tell them that was just a way I was using to teach them about Jesus..?? Thanks for the post! I think it’s a really neat idea for Christians!
@Linds:
thanks for your comment. i addressed that same question in a comment above, so just scroll up to see it. basically, i am hopeful that my kids will appreciate and understand our use of Santa as a creative means of sharing the Gospel with them.
Neither my husband or I grew up with Santa in our house but both of us LOVED the idea (well, YOUR idea) of Elf on the Shelf. I found your blog, repinned it, showed my husband (who is also a Youth Pastor) and now I’m not sure who’s having more fun- us or the kids!
I have shared your blog with several people- especially those who don’t quite understand that there can be a different perspective. Anyway, thanks for your inspiration!
I was so sad to read about this. I just have never understood why people encourage children to believe in Santa, Easter Bunny, tooth fairy, as well as Jesus. Then in a few years, have to admit to them that 3 out of the 4 are not true – just made up stories.
My concern is this: why should those children who have been lied to about made up stories not think that Jesus is just another made up story. Certainly the pattern has been set. Why should they believe what they are being told about Jesus when they have been encouraged to believe in lies about the others? Are they wondering when they will be told that Jesus is just a made up story too?
A special young friend posted the following on facebook today and it certainly is very applicable. She is wise beyond her 16 years:
”No man can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one, and love the other, or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. You can not serve God and the world.” Matthew 6:24
Christians can’t please God while pleasing the world, it is absolutely impossible.
I choose to serve God because that’s what being a Christian is. The world may mock me, persecute me, and beat me down for it; but I know I live for someone stronger than that.”
Certainly from reading the comments, you and many others have very strong stands that have been communicated in what you want to teach your children. It is certainly your choice and it is you that will give an account to God how you trained the children He has given you. I just wanted to give you another perspective to consider. I do pray that your children will believe in regard to the truth of Jesus.
This was not sent out of hate or disrespect but love and sadness. I want the Jesus who suffered and died for man’s sin to have what He deserves – all of our devotion and love and belief in Him (and not shared with fictitious characters).
Thank you for reading and considering another perspective.
yay! great idea! great lesson! so greatful for YOU and this!
going to start NEXT YEAR…because I’m so overwhelmed this year! ha!
thanks!
I am not religious, but I thoroughly enjoyed this idea and the creative way to tie it back to being helpful, caring, and understanding. It saddens me to see many people tear this idea down because in their mind it doesn’t “fit in”. Shame on anyone who makes you feel small, in order to make themselves feel bigger or right. God is all loving, and I’m sure he would love this idea.
It was such a relief to read something like this today. I’m so tired of my friends telling me I’m a liar and that it is ungodly to allow my children to believe in Santa. My dad has played Santa in my hometown’s Christmas parade for the past 12 years. My husband and I grew up with Santa in our Christian homes. My children know the story of St. Nicholas. I love how you’ve incorporated Eli into your traditions too. I wanted to do something like that but was unsure how to do it in a Christian manner. You’ve combined it beautifully. This will become part of my Christmas traditions next year. St. Nicholas was showing Christian love. I fully believe that children shoud be given the opportunity to believe in the magic of Christmas. Thank you.
I love it! I love every aspect of what you are teaching your children! We have an Elf too Named Christopher (who my 4 yr old daughter calls Christopher Robin)….I actually think it is hysterical! My daughter loves finding him and why not have an imagination! I feel like everything else is governed and imagination is the one thing no one should be able to destroy. I love the true meaning of Christmas, I am a Christian, a Mormon actually, and believe that Christ is the center of Christmas. I grew up believing in Santa and what he represents and do not feel like I was lied to or cheated as a child. Santa may be the a “fun” part of Christmas, but shouldn’t holidays be fun too??
I love the picture of your kids so intriguingly looking at Eli…my daughter too, swears he blinks!
Thank you for your post. Happy Holidays!
Thank you so much for the posting this. I have read all the comments and I am amazed that people can be so uptight. If its something that you do not agree with then why read or comment. What happened to “If you are not adding to the person in a positive way then do not say.” So thank you for this wonderful post but for also keeping up the negative comments and for the way you have responded. I am a young mother and was inspired/encouraged about the elegant way you have responded. This might not have been your intention but it has touched my life and the way I will respond to the negativity. I hope you and your family have a wonderful holiday filled with joy.
Just found your amazing blog tonight while looking at Elf on the Shelf ideas. Great ideas, especially loved the toothpaste. Thanks so much!
I don’t usually take the time to comment on blogs but I wanted to tell you thank you. You have encouraged me to make sure Jesus is in our Christmas even more this year 200 percent
. I want Jesus to be the center of our celebration so this year we did a birthday card for him and were doing a cake for my 2 and 4 y o to ‘give’ to Jesus.
We def embrace Santa and LOVE Santa too. Is he ‘real’ in our house? Well we haven’t really had to address that because our kids have made up their own story. When they ask us questions we just reply with a question like “we’ll that’s a great question sweetie! What do you think?” And then when the kiddos ask anything about Jesus or God we can say without a doubt Yes He is REAL and here is the bible to prove it and so on. Santa brings them gifts and they visit Santa too and the joy they get from seeing Santa is beautiful but its nothing like the Joy they have when we talk about Jesus! They light up and they know the difference just like you said your kiddos do.
We have an Elf this year too and can I say- I have Loved how that little elf has made my hubby and I rekindle our kid like joy. We have Joy because of Jesus – it’s just that the silly elf has allowed is to share Jesus’s Grace in a new way and I honestly feel like that has helped us in turn.
What critics dont get is that The elf actually encourages discussions about Jesus when it’s used like you’ve suggested. I used your letter from day one (out elf came late on dec 6th) and the letter and reading your blog have helped my hubby and I to remember the real reason of the season more so than we have in past years. so THANK YOU for reminding me to put HIM center stage and thank you for giving me a few more cute ideas to use with the Elf and Santa (your letter and blog posts) that will def help us keep Jesus center stage. im excited to share His grace and love with our sweet hearts
. Xxxooo! Thank you. Lots of love, The Adams Family
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